“Bully” the documentary
“Bully” is a documentary that has gotten a lot of press even before its release. Here is one review:
I’ll bet all of us have had experience with bullying. Nathan cites bullying/teasing as one of the top three traumatic experiences in his life (the other two were the deaths of family pets.) He also says it contributed to him becoming a vengeful person, and disliking (or hating) almost everyone he knows. At least a few of his therapists have agreed.
The peak years for Nathan being teased were in late elementary school. Although his behavior was even more unusual in high school than it had been in his younger years, he didn’t seem to be teased nearly as much by then. I’d always thought it was teens who were cruelest to peers who didn’t fit in…. And his high schools had more than their share of rough characters, too.
In elementary school Nathan mentioned the teasing a few times, but never shared with us what it was about – even to this day. (We’ve played Twenty Questions to rule out what it wasn’t about.) He did not want us to “do” anything about it. We had friends on the school staff and among PTA volunteers. We asked them about it a few times, but they never saw Nathan being singled out as a target. Since Nathan wasn’t harping on it, as he did about so many other annoyances in his life, we cautiously left the situation alone. In retrospect, we should have been way more concerned.
Being a victim of harsh words and violence repeatedly is terrible for anyone.For kids whose sensitivities are cranked up – like those with AD/HD or those who are on the autism spectrum – it can be especially crippling, both as the teasing is happening and for years down the road.
Has your teen been bullied? Has he or she bullied others?
Did anything help stop the teasing?
Did you find anything to help the teen cope with the aftermath?
About janet565I've lived in the Inland Empire of Southern California since 1982. Born and raised in New Jersey, I've also lived in upstate New York and in Oregon. My profession involves maps and geography, which is usually very interesting. My hobbies are pretty boring - none of them involve tigers (or ligers) or jumping out of aircraft - so they do not bear mention here. I hope you find the blog useful, and wish you well....
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Climbing The Cinder Cone presents resources that may help young people who learn or think differently. The focus is on situations that "fall through the cracks," where it isn't clear what programs or treatments are appropriate.
The blog mostly addresses topics our family has dealt with (or should have known about). Anyone with experience in these areas is invited to chime in!
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